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Don't let 'being busy' get the best of you
November 24, 2007 SUSIN MICALLEF
Busy, busy, busy. I hear so many people say they are so busy, my eyes glaze over when I hear the word. I've banished 'busy' from my vocabulary because it is now one of those words that's so overdone it's meaningless.
Everyone is busy. Your busy might be tame compared to my level of busy, which is nothing to fret about by someone else's standard.
Each of us makes our own definition of 'busy.' It's a choice, it doesn't just happen to us. We can make ourselves as busy, or not, as we want. 'Busy' is sometimes a crutch. It's a reason. It's an excuse.
It's an easy way out.
We all know someone who is too busy to get together, too busy to clean up around the house, too busy to lend a hand. What astounds me is the number of people who think only their life is busy.
I hate to admit it, but I think part of the 'busy' problem is women who have yet to learn how to delegate. Sorry Sisters but that's how I see it.
Too many of us think we're the only ones who can take care of the kids or the household, or that it's just easier to do it yourself than each or explain to someone what has to be done. Many of us are great co-ordinators. We organize family gatherings, birthday parties and so
much more. We just need to learn how to assign tasks on the home front.
Partners and kids can all pitch in. Kids can start helping at a young age whether they are girls or boys. I've seen how some cultures pamper their sons with the excuse that they're boys and they don't know better. Of course they won't know better if they're not taught.
You've no doubt heard the saying "give a man a fish and you've fed him for a day. Teach him to fish and you will feed him for a lifetime."
The same lesson can be applied to a household.
Give a child everything on a silver platter and he is comfortable for the day. Teach your son or daughter how to look after himself or herself and they will grow to be independent. They learn and you have the freedom to do something else with your time. It's a win-win scenario. Sharing the chores and spreading the 'busy' is a good way to start teaching kids time-management skills, which will be invaluable when they become adults and have their own 'busy' to manage.
We do it to ourselves, though, don't we. We buy bigger homes yet we really don't need the space. Our families are smaller now than a couple generations ago when they could have used the extra space. So our space gets bigger and all that space needs to get filled. It gets
filled with stuff and that stuff needs to be cleaned regularly so we are adding work to our already full lives.
I don't know about you, but I'd rather be socializing and having fun with family and friends than cleaning. Wouldn't our lives be less busy if we scaled back and stopped buying stuff?
Looking after your home is a workout in itself. My mother always used to say she didn't need a club membership, "I do my housework, that's my exercise." How right she was.
Chores around the house, cleaning, mowing and gardening -- it never ends and it adds up to a whole lot of busy. When you're done the chore, not only did you get some exercise, but you can take pride in
the fruits of your labour for a sense of accomplishment. And if you have kids, that sense of achievement can happen often.
I've learned that sometimes you get caught in a whirlwind of 'busy,' then one day it hits you and you don't know how you got there. Keeping busy is good if it's fulfilling or rewarding. It's a stress if you don't enjoy it.
There are days, weeks, months and seasons that can be busier than others but that doesn't mean we have to let it get the best of us.
Susin Micallef is a member of the Mercury's Community Editorial Board.